After having a long hard think about what really compels me to wanting more and more and more, I came up with two major factors, the first being bargains, and the second being trends. I want to break them down individually and talk about what I can do to alter my habits.
Let's start off with bargains. I come from a pretty frugal family, and my mother always taught me to shop the sales. I am not saying that this is a bad habit, of course it is fantastic to save money on essential items! But am I really shopping for essential items in sales? No!
99% of the time I use sales to justify spending money on items I don't need.
When things are on sale, it's like a green light in my head that says it's okay to spend away. My mental list of what I need or already have at home goes out the window, because I am saving money today that I wouldn't tomorrow. Think about the logic behind that... Spending money to save money... I mean really?
When I see sale signs like 50% off, do you know what I do more often than not? I buy two of that item. And I am not just talking about things that I would use up either! I am talking about items that are non perishable. Now I have more than I need or even want some of the time, taking up more room that I don't have in my small apartment. Things that seem new and shiny and exciting at the time, but in reality I probably won't use and will end up throwing out in a year thinking, why did I spend my money on this? Thinking about that in hindsight makes me feel like a crazy person.
Where did it all come from?
The second thing I want to talk about is trends. Boy oh boy do I too often get sucked into the latest and greatest trends. Whether they be in clothing or makeup I am am always looking for the latest and greatest developments in style. As a pretty darn socially awkward person, I always catch myself thinking, maybe I will be more confident with others if I look the right way. That is such an embarrassing thing to admit, but it's true. I don't know how it's gotten this bad in my head, having such a warped version of reality. Some would blame the media, some would blame capitalism. I don't want to get into a philosophical debate here, I am just acknowledging that it is a problem.
Having new things makes me feel confident and happy for a short amount of time.
And it is that happiness and confidence that we call retail therapy my friends. They say that the first step to changing is admitting that you have a problem. Well I am admitting that I have a problem. I shop to make myself feel better. I hope that through a bit of self reflection that I can build my strength of character enough to deal with problems in a way that doesn't involve coming home with some shiny new plaything. I hope that you guys could at least relate to this a post a little bit.
Do you think you are an over consumer? Or are you a wholehearted believer in retail therapy? I'd love to hear your thoughts below :)